More than a billion people worldwide use social media. Many people create posts on a daily basis. They may overshare, posting photos of their food, their children, their friends, their parties, and everything in between.
While posting on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat may seem innocent, social media can do a lot of damage if you are going through a divorce. What you post can and will be used against you in the court of law. Want to vent about your ex? That could cost you dearly. So can photos of you partying, engaging in illegal activities, or buying lavish gifts. All these types of posts can affect child custody, alimony, and asset distribution, as well as downgrade your credibility and reputation.
Even though you may be using social media to seek support and help you through a nasty divorce, it can do more harm than good. Here is some advice to consider as you navigate divorce in a world driven by social media and other technology.
Take a Break
One of the smartest moves during a divorce is stepping away from social media altogether. Avoiding posts can help prevent unnecessary conflict or retaliation from your spouse. Taking a break also allows you to focus on your well-being, your children, and rebuilding your routine without outside distractions.
Avoid Negativity
If you choose to stay active online, avoid posting anything negative about your spouse or their family. Social media is not the place to vent frustrations. Never post while emotional, and remind close family members to avoid doing the same. Keep in mind that your children can often see more than you think, even on supposedly private accounts.
Keep it Positive
If you do post, keep it positive and low-key. Share uplifting moments, hobbies, or personal growth. However, be mindful about oversharing major life updates, especially involving new relationships or trips with your children, as this can create unnecessary tension.
Increase Privacy
Strengthen your privacy settings and ask friends not to tag you in posts or photos. Even then, you should not assume anything online is completely private. Consider removing or blocking people you no longer trust, and be intentional about who remains in your online circle.
Avoid Sharing Details
Avoid discussing any aspect of your case online. Even in amicable situations, sharing details about custody, negotiations, or settlements can complicate matters and potentially be used against you.
Do Not Look for Dirt
Do not try to gather damaging information about your spouse through social media or mutual connections. This often escalates conflict. Instead, direct any concerns to your attorney, mediator, or therapist.
Contact Us Today
Social media use may seem innocent enough, but it can cause a lot of damage to a marriage and subsequent divorce. It is best to avoid usage so that lawyers cannot use your posts as evidence.
Count on a Redwood City divorce lawyer from The Law Offices of Oliver Gutierrez to guide you through the divorce process and help you avoid common mistakes. Se habla español. Schedule a consultation today by calling (650) 285-1673 or filling out the online form.