When should your kids meet a new partner? Not too soon

You and your spouse agreed that a divorce is the right option after you found out that he had been cheating on you. It was a difficult situation, but you knew that it would be better for everyone if you and he divorced.

Your children weren’t sure what was happening, so you took the time to explain everything to them. Over time, you and your spouse came up with a great parenting plan, a custody schedule you both agreed on and were moving forward. Your children even seemed to adjust.

Then, your youngest daughter came back home last night and told you she had a great time at her dad’s girlfriend’s home. You were blindsided because you and he had spoken about limiting their contact with new partners until they were serious. Your divorce isn’t even finalized. What should you do?

This is a case where you may want to think carefully about your next step. You can speak with your attorney about using this information against your spouse if you’re seeking more custody, but if you’re fine with the schedule as it is, you may want to talk to your spouse first. Discuss why this isn’t a good idea and why you’d like to shield your children from new partners or relationships until they’re serious. While their dad might not have thought it was a big deal to take your children to see his girlfriend, you feel like it gives them the wrong idea and is certainly too soon.

This is a complicated situation. If you can’t come to an agreement, your attorney may be able to give you some ideas on how to proceed.

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